Discover Your Holy Grail: A Year of Healing for Sexual Boundary Violations | Starts May 17

What is it?

Healing isn’t something you do alone, especially when it comes to a complex and difficult-to-acknowledge issue like sexual violence. That’s why, in addition to a “regular” healing year, we’re also launching a “Discover Your Holy Grail” Healing Year: Sexual Boundary Violations. Over the course of a full year, you’ll embark on your personal healing journey around this theme together with other heroes and heroines. Together, you’ll explore all kinds of subtopics related to your healing process, such as: Why is it so hard to believe myself? Why don’t I remember this trauma clearly? How can I feel safe again? How do I break unhealthy patterns or addictions that arose from this trauma? Why do I sometimes (consciously) hurt myself? Why do I react so strongly to triggers? How do I give myself recognition? Why do I struggle to love myself? How do I reestablish healthy boundaries? What are the consequences of this trauma on my relationships?

For a whole year, you’ll be surrounded by a supportive group of people who all want the same thing as you: to heal from this trauma. It is precisely through the power of the group that you’ll find your healing process (finally!) making great strides forward.

Rianne is leading this year of healing based on her own experience with this trauma. Joining her as a facilitator is Siem Stevens. This is a deliberate choice, as Siem, too, knows this profound trauma and its consequences from the inside out. But he also knows healing. And because a safe and healed man supports both men and women in the healing process, Siem would like to support you based on his personal experience and knowledge as a co-author of the books.

What to expect.

We meet once a month. We’ll kick things off with a full day of live sessions on May 17. That’s when you’ll meet your fellow travelers for the first time, enjoy a full day of sessions led by Rianne, and be paired with someone you’ll be working with for the next year. Read on to find out what that entails.

Within two weeks of this day, you’ll have your first one-on-one session with Rianne, so you can discuss your plan for the year with her, ask any questions that came up after the first day, and safely practice talking about this sensitive trauma.

We’ll meet in person again halfway through the year and for another full day at the end of your healing year. In the months in between, we’ll meet online once a month, from 8:00 PM to 10:30 PM. The first session is a longer one on Sunday, June 15, to ensure your kick-start to the year is complete. The online sessions are recorded (and shared only via a temporary link within the group), so if you’re ever unable to attend, you’ll have the opportunity to watch the session later. During the summer months, you’ll receive two summer videos from Rianne, so you can enjoy your vacation without interrupting your progress.

Themes

Throughout the year, we cover a variety of topics. For example:

What exactly constitutes sexual misconduct?
How does this trauma affect your boundaries, and how can you restore them?
How do I acknowledge myself and believe in myself?
How can I break the unhealthy patterns, addictions, and habits that have developed as a result of the trauma?
What is the value of speaking your mind?
How can I build more self-confidence and self-love?
How can I learn to take up space and chart my own course?
How can I learn to trust my intuition and the truth?
How can I live more in tune with my needs and desires?
How does sexual violence affect my body?
Why is it that I sometimes seem to (deliberately) hurt myself?
How can I move past this trauma?
How do I develop a healthy relationship with sexuality, connection, and intimacy?
How can I be less easily triggered?
How do I develop a healthy relationship with my partner?

If other urgent issues come up on the first live healing day, Rianne would like to see how they can be incorporated.

Schedule for (online) meetings

The in-person sessions and online session are structured (more or less) as follows:

Each session begins with a substantive presentation by Rianne on the day’s topic, followed by an exercise (for online sessions, you’ll have completed this in advance), after which we’ll take the time to discuss it in detail as a group.
Rianne will also answer any questions that come up during the session.
During a live day, there are 2–3 sessions; during the first online session, there are 2, and during each online evening session, there is 1.
Every session also includes time for bodywork.

One-on-one sessions with Rianne

Throughout the year, in addition to the initial one-on-one session, you may choose two additional times when you’d like to have an online or phone session with Rianne. You can use these sessions when you’re feeling stuck or if a particular topic is really getting to you.

Of course, you can always ask Rianne for help or advice throughout the year if you need it.

Your own travel companion

Once a week, you’ll call your travel companion to check in: how are you and the other person doing? Are there any issues that need attention? Are new questions arising, or is pain surfacing that hadn’t demanded attention before? You can share all of this with each other, but: you are not each other’s coach. That role belongs to Rianne and the facilitator. You’re there to listen and offer encouragement when things get tough. So even if the call is brief: just knowing that somewhere during the week you can share your process with someone makes you feel supported for a whole year. On the first day, Rianne will also give you tips on how to do that: be a travel companion.

What is the goal?

On the first day of healing, you’ll set your own goal. It could be anything: learning to trust your intuition, reconnecting with others, feeling safe in your body again, or breaking free from that one pattern… You share this goal with the Discover Your Holy Grail team, so they can support you and guide you toward your chosen goal.

When is it?

The dates for this Year of Healing are:

May 17: First live event, 10:00 AM–5:00 PM
June 15, 2:00–6:00 p.m.: Extra-long online session 1
Two summer videos in July and August
September 9, 8:00–10:30 p.m., Online Session 2
October 7, 8:00–10:30 p.m., Online Session 3
November 22: Second live event day, from 10:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m.
December 15, 8:00–10:30 p.m., Online Session 4
January 19, 8:00–10:30 p.m., Online Session 5
February 18, 8:00–10:30 p.m., Online Session 6
March 23, 8:00–10:30 p.m., Online Session 7 (last online session)
April 18: Last day of the live event, from 10:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m.

Where and when is it? And how much does it cost?

What do you get for your money?

3 live healing sessions from 10:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m.
A personal session with Rianne at the start of your healing year to kick-start your goal
7 online sessions – from 8:00 p.m. to 10:30 p.m. on Monday evenings
2 summer sessions – these are instructional videos that you’ll receive from Rianne once a month in July and August
Each month, you’ll complete one or more “discoveries” (exercises) related to the theme that will be discussed the following month; you’ll receive these digitally from the Discover Your Holy Grail team
Once a week, you check in with your travel buddy (even if it’s just for a moment)
2 online or phone sessions with Rianne to brainstorm or ask pressing questions
As a gift: The "Discover Your Holy Grail" books—with a personal message, of course—will be presented on the first day of healing. If you already have them, you can request two e-books instead, or you can pass the books on to someone else 😉 .

Reserve your spot

We would love to welcome you and spend the year together.

If the price is an issue for you, please ask about options such as paying in installments.

Terms and Conditions

In the unlikely event that you need to cancel, the cancellation policy as listed here on the website applies.
The weekend will take place provided there are at least 11 registrations. You will be notified no later than two weeks in advance whether the weekend will take place. If there are too few registrations, you will, of course, receive a full refund.